20 things to be proud of going into 2020!

Wow, we are heading into another decade, it sounds massive, so solid, so expectant.

So many things have happened in this past year, let alone the past 10,right?

At the end of the year I love to reflect, take stock and give thanks. To see where I can grow and be open to endless opportunities that await us.

I want to encourage you and want you to pat yourself on the back for all you have achieved in the past 10 years.

This past decade particularly has been quite iconic for me – I was 22 now turning 32 in a few days. I started my adult life in a big city, hundreds of kilometres away from my home. I have learnt that you can only prepare so much for life – you can study hard, be good, do good, go to church, forgive, mess up, learn, repeat the mess up, learn a harder lesson – eat loads, love loads, meet tons of people, battle the flu and other illnesses in between life, work, love and studies.

Don’t forget leaning about finances and dangerous creepy people. I have bought way too many sale items that when I think about it, I didn’t really like but thought it was amazing that I saved money, but in actual fact I really could have owned a luxury wardrobe by now if I put things into perspective.

I spent way too much on time on what others thought.

I did not speak up enough.

I did not ask questions.

I let people get away with disrespecting me.

I did not know how to handle emotion.

I was chaotic, but in a cute way. Almost too sweet that anyone could believe I had a temper. But that’s the thing – we all do.

I supressed true feeling and did know how to process.

I hid myself in clothes, shoes, eating and trying to be the perfect person.

I expected others to make me happy and pick up the pieces around me.

I blamed so many people for my unhappiness and the joy that was stolen through the turmoil of my 20’s.

But then, I realised.. the only person that can change all of this was me.

2016 was a turnasround for me – the transition of knowing that this was not all life in store for me.

So here are the 20 things that I am proud of and you should also consider making a list for yourself too, so you can remember the good things amongst all the hell.

  1. I always show up
  2. I am professional, polite and had an incredible work ethic
  3. I became a homeowner at 24
  4. I travelled
  5. I battled sickness and toxic relationships and pushed through
  6. I set boundaries
  7. I continue to pray
  8. I list the things I am grateful for everyday
  9. I helped people through their difficulties
  10. I am a good wife (most of the time)
  11. A reliable and trustworthy friend
  12. I am a devoted daughter / sister / granddaughter
  13. I am creative
  14. I am allowed to laugh and be funny and actually I am a funny person
  15. I am incredibly intelligent
  16. I am confidently humble and kind
  17. I see the good in people and situations
  18. I am dedicated to making my world a better place
  19. I am fit and healthy and have healed most of my illnesses through, eating more mindfully, letting go of negative energy and conserving my time
  20. I am an amazing, brave and involved mummy!

Now list your 20 things!

Remember good always happens amongst the bad – this is life. It’s how we reflect and the power we give the bad over the good that determines our freedom and growth.

Have a kick ass 2020

Pri.

xx

DIY CHRISTMAS WREATH

Happy Holidays!

I love being crafty, the goof kind of course 😊

I made this DIY wreath for out front door with next to nothing.

You will need

  • A branch with leaves from your garden
  • Wire
  • Red Ribbon
  • Red Baubles (I kept these from last years Christmas Crackers)

How to Assemble the Wreath:

Twist the branch int a circle and fix together with the wire.

Finish off with ribbon and baubles and we are done!

This is an incredible DIY gift for friends and family too .

Don’t give up! Don’t give in! Don’t let anyone, especially not yourself stop you from living a fulfilled life!

If you have a dream on your heart, a certain goal that you want to achieve. A niggling in your soul that there is more out there for you, don’t ignore it!

Don’t under-estimate how far you have come, everything you have overcome to get to where you are. Don’t forget the times you have pushed through on days that you didn’t even know how to. Don’t underplay the times you wanted to give-in to others criticism and give in to fear. Never forget the reasons why you started your journey, never forget your dream, your reasons for pursuing this life to the fullest and the strength you have inside you to live in the center of a life you have created, a life you have dreamed of.

 

I find it hard to envision a life of abundance and beauty when I am sad. Often I let stress and worry creep in and I get caught up in those emotions and can’t see the beauty in things or I don’t have the positive energy to see things from a different point of view. Do you also feel like this at times?

What helps center my thoughts and my focus to love more intentionally and get back to positive thinking is the following things:

  1. First I try and recognize that I have not been myself (either sad, edgy, tired, cranky, snappy, negative, demanding)
  2. I journal about my thoughts and often don’t know why I am feeling this way. Once you start writing you will start to see where the negative emotion comes from.
  3. Think of a solution on how you can change your mindset about the situation
  4. If it involves another person, talk to them about it
  5. If it is a whole host of emotions and a series of events try to isolate the problem linked to each emotion ( I often end up so upset because I feel like I often look at things when they have become compounded with other issues)
  6. If I go on too long like this, it drains me– your mind gets filled with I cants and you feel defeated. By taking control of the situation and your emotions you can deal with any issue in a more a healthy way.
  7. Don’t cacoon – ask for help if you need it. Communicate your needs to others. No one can help you if you don’t tell them what’s upsetting you.
  8. Go for a walk! Have a cup of coffee, a glass of wine.. treat yourself. Do not punish yourself when you are feeling down, rather try to add some sort of downtime to your day that will help ease your mood.
  9. Breathe! I often forget to consciously breathe when I am stressed. A deep breathe can center your thoughts and just calm you down.
  10. Don’t allow your emotions to stop you from being happy! Happiness is a choice. Today I have chosen to stop being so hard on myself and to be happy. Being happy is so personal to each of us – different things make us happy. Happiness is not a prolonged state of being, it’s a conscious decision in some small way to add some lightness to your day.

So the whole point of this to remind you and myself that there will be down days, hard days, challenges and people that may upset you – but don’t allow these hiccups to cloud your vision of your dreams and to enjoy each day in whatever small way we can.

Claim life, it’s yours

Priyanka

xxx

 

 

I am a dreamer, please tell me I’m not the only one!

Everyday is a step closer to fulfilling your dreams.

That sounds a bit airy fairy, right?!

When we talk about pursuing happiness. Making our dreams come true or following a path to find our passion, others may scoff at us thinking we are living in a false sense of reality or yes a “dreamland”. Dreaming is often considered childlike and too whimsical for us adults to do because life is hard as it what is  …we just have to get on with what we need to make this life work.

The sad reality is that living with no hope or passion leads to a sad and depressed life. Yes we do have to just get on each day but it does not always have to be a drag.

We do have to make a living and make ends meet. We do have to wake up each day and get into the routine of chores, work, home, deadlines, difficult relationships, hardships, health challenges, loss, grief, anxiety –  Life can be one hard, disappointing, monotonous and dull event after the other.

The powerful truth is that we have the ability to change our approach to life’s hardships and monotony.  The way to do this is by realising that we have the power to change our mindset and most of all our heartset to life and what it gives us.

I have figured out that one of the most effective ways to do this is to start the day by claiming and noticing all the good things in your life (even though you may not be able to see it immediately) start with small things – Make a list of these things.

By being mindful of all the good things in your life and the wonderful things around you – you start appreciating life instead of just existing in it.  You will see that by having a sense of gratitude and living with eyes open to blessings that have come your way will bring with it elements of joy and calm in your day that relaxes you and will spike your happiness.

Being a dreamer should come naturally to us, we were designed this way… to have a child-like sense of curiosity and wonder. To look at each day as an opportunity, but life has a sneaky way of dwindling this ability.

All I can say is that if you don’t have a dream in your heart life is always harder. Start small and finally you will dream big! Your dreams are your little seeds of magic that you can sow into your life that will start to transform the amount of fun and satisfaction you have. We all have the power to change the course of our life – one dreams and belief at a time! Make it, shape it and believe in it.

Oprah said that “The biggest adventure you can have is to live the life of your dreams”. I sure do want to have some great adventures, how about you?

Much love,

Pri. Xxx