Say No to FEAR

I feel it necessary to address the topic of fear especially in this global crisis we are facing with Covid19.

This is not addressing anything about the virus – but a way to inspire you to see that we choose a life of faith or fear and we get to choose how we go forward.

Something on Fear

Fact: You are born UNAFRAID

I will never forget my 18 hour long birth, no doctors, everyone still on holiday. My baby ready to enter this world.

My husband had to demand an anaesthetist to assist who trawled in 10 hours into my labour. My daughter was vacuumed, pushed and prodded and after an emergency Caesar she was born blue and not breathing.

This little 2.65kg baby, fought to be here, she was strapped to machines and drips and all kinds of scary things in the first week of her life. Her first exposure to this world was to a clinical hospital room with no knowledge of what was happening. The hardest part for me was having to leave my baby for observation and now go home with her in my arms. She developed Jaundice and had to stay on even further.

As a new mum, every fantasy of bringing my daughter home and with the perfect outfit and video and flowers and champagne – it didn’t happen. Instead I was riddled with stress, my body swollen and severely affected with post traumatic stress.

She came home on day 5 and we had to have a nurse to monitor her for another 5 days. During this time she had to sleep in a jaundice bed with straps – it was so hot and it was the middle of our summer.

I was determined to bond with my baby and breastfed her every chance I could, from Day 2 in Neo Natal ICU and throughout her treatment. She loved it. Hated the dummy / bottle and I knew this was my chance to bond with this amazing gift from heaven.

All I know is that Eden fought to be here, she will never remember how she fought to be here, but I will. What her resilience and courage taught me in my 30th year of life was that WE ARE TRULY BORN UNAFRAID. Our reality, our experiences and what we believe places fear within us. If my little girl fought fearlessly from day 1, I could fight fearlessly to conquer my fears and be the brave mum she needs.

That’s my promise to you my Eden. To be fearlessly all I can be, and on days I feel that I cant – I will always try to lean into my greatest reality in life – is that my faith is the only thing that grounds me and helps me achieve peace no matter how dull the world may be right now.

Stay safe and be fearless with faith!

xx

Pri

I am a dreamer, please tell me I’m not the only one!

Everyday is a step closer to fulfilling your dreams.

That sounds a bit airy fairy, right?!

When we talk about pursuing happiness. Making our dreams come true or following a path to find our passion, others may scoff at us thinking we are living in a false sense of reality or yes a “dreamland”. Dreaming is often considered childlike and too whimsical for us adults to do because life is hard as it what is  …we just have to get on with what we need to make this life work.

The sad reality is that living with no hope or passion leads to a sad and depressed life. Yes we do have to just get on each day but it does not always have to be a drag.

We do have to make a living and make ends meet. We do have to wake up each day and get into the routine of chores, work, home, deadlines, difficult relationships, hardships, health challenges, loss, grief, anxiety –  Life can be one hard, disappointing, monotonous and dull event after the other.

The powerful truth is that we have the ability to change our approach to life’s hardships and monotony.  The way to do this is by realising that we have the power to change our mindset and most of all our heartset to life and what it gives us.

I have figured out that one of the most effective ways to do this is to start the day by claiming and noticing all the good things in your life (even though you may not be able to see it immediately) start with small things – Make a list of these things.

By being mindful of all the good things in your life and the wonderful things around you – you start appreciating life instead of just existing in it.  You will see that by having a sense of gratitude and living with eyes open to blessings that have come your way will bring with it elements of joy and calm in your day that relaxes you and will spike your happiness.

Being a dreamer should come naturally to us, we were designed this way… to have a child-like sense of curiosity and wonder. To look at each day as an opportunity, but life has a sneaky way of dwindling this ability.

All I can say is that if you don’t have a dream in your heart life is always harder. Start small and finally you will dream big! Your dreams are your little seeds of magic that you can sow into your life that will start to transform the amount of fun and satisfaction you have. We all have the power to change the course of our life – one dreams and belief at a time! Make it, shape it and believe in it.

Oprah said that “The biggest adventure you can have is to live the life of your dreams”. I sure do want to have some great adventures, how about you?

Much love,

Pri. Xxx